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Finding My Family



As an incoming Freshman, I was incredibly anxious about going to college and finding my niche. I wasn’t exactly sure what I wanted to become involved in or how I was going to even find friends. After passing by the Bruin Belles booth at the Enormous Activity Fair, I immediately knew I wanted to be a Belle. It had already begun to feel like a second home, filled with passionate women with the kindest hearts. I was especially thrilled when I found out that one of my closest friends from elementary school would be in my baby belle class. I was so excited about everything in store for us and the amazing adventures we would have in our first year as Belles. 

Fast forward to a year and a half later and I am having the time of my life. I have participated in so many phenomenal philanthropy, women’s leadership, and campus culture events and bonded with all the amazing women apart of my organization. Over the past year as a Belle, I have connected with so many women who have become some of my closest friends. I received an amazing Big who I literally cannot imagine life without and I recently extended my Belle family and received a fabulous Little who inspires me every day.

Ultimately, I am so thankful that I get to give back and serve with these women every week. Every Belle event is filled with so much joy and happiness that it could put a smile on anyone’s face. My fellow Belles never cease to amaze me, from their accomplishments to their passion for service. I have found girls who love me unconditionally and support me in every endeavor- they have become my UCLA family. To be completely honest, joining Bruin Belles is the smartest decision I have made in my college career and I cannot wait to explore the rest of my years as a member of this beautiful organization. 

Thank You, 
Valerie Agembah 
2nd Year 
Distinguished Belle- Women's Leadership Office







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